17  RULES  for  CELESTIAL  DATING



1. Do Not Date Non-Members or Unworthy Members.

The Lord does not expect you to find your Celestial Partner among the non-members, or the inactive of the Church. They will have their opportunity as they repent and become members, or reactivate themselves with the help of the Church organizations that have been set up for that purpose.


2. Do Not Participate in "Kissing-Hugging" Sessions.
This is the lengthy make-out sessions that many feel are okay as long as it does not go to far. This Does Not display love, but is a satisfaction of lust. Love is shown by kindness, caring for virtue, a kiss at the appropriate time, or a hug of affection.


3. No French Kissing.
This is far too intimate, and is a simulation of the sex act itself.


4. Date in Couples or Groups Most Often.
Dating in groups is not only safer, but you will find that it is much more fun. You will get to know your date better as you do things in a group. As we get older, we tend to shy away from group dating. To almost exclusively single date is dangerous. Make group dating the largest part of your activities.


5. DO Not Park.
Much of the trouble between couples occurs in a parked car. Parking just to "talk" or anything else, has been the beginning of many a serious moral transgression. After a date, Go Home!! Once there, go into the house Alone!!


6. No Back Rubs.
Becoming too familiar with each other offers liberties not entitled to single couples, and is wrong. Back rubs often lead to more intimate acts not entitled to singles.




7. Do Not Lie Down by Each Other, Or on Top of Each Other.

Do not lie down to watch television. Lying down in the park, on the beach, or wherever, places you in a position that is spiritually unhealthy. When you watch television, giving goodnight kisses, etc., do not lie down to do it.


8. Attend Only Wholesome Activities
X, R, and most PG rated movies are not appropriate to see on dates, or at ANY time. Drive-in movies should be avoided. Parties or functions where LDS standards are not observed are degrading to our spirits, and especially not appropriate for dates. If you find yourself at a party where alcoholic beverages are being served, where lighting is poor, where couples are making out in the corners, or anything not conducive to the Spirit, LEAVE!! When at dances, be careful of your posture, both on slow and fast dances. NEVER should you frequent bars, even to "just dance" or, "to listen to the music." If you do not stay away from bars, you will fall into serious moral sin. There is no exception to this.


9. No Immodest Dress
Dress that is modest and becoming, of the LDS people, is most important at all times, especially when dating. Women, immodest clothing includes two-piece bathing suits, halter tops, short shorts, tight fitting clothes, low necklines, short skirts, etc. Men keep your shirts on and buttoned up, and your garments on. Modesty is displayed in, not only, dress, but also, in Actions, and Words.


10. Never ! Never ! Go into a Home, or an Apartment, Alone, Together
A couple should never go into a home or apartment, or living abode, alone. If you are in a home with another, and everyone else leaves, but you and your date, one of you should leave. This may seem extreme, but its importance cannot be stressed enough. NEVER give your boyfriend, or girlfriend, a key to your place.


11. Never!! Never!! Go into a Bedroom of the Opposite Sex.

Bedrooms are not for entertaining friends of the opposite sex. You should never go in there, even to "Talk."


12. Choose Friends Carefully.
A person seldom rises above those with whom they associate. Friends have overwhelming influence over people. Thus, you should choose friends that have values and standards, that are at least as high as you own, -- preferably higher. You will be judged by the activities of your friends.






13. No Missionaary Work, One-on-One with the Opposite Sex.

We are asked by the Lord to not do missionary work, alone, with members of the opposite sex. Missionary work is to be done without the hazard of emotional involvement that could lead to romance, which confuses the potential candidate. Remember, we do not date non-members. Non-members that fall into this category should be worked with under the direction of the Ward mission leader, and with help from others.


14. No Late Hours.
You should be in from your dates at 12:30. It is also suggested, to be in by 11:30, on Saturday night. Not all moral problems occur at night, but many do, when we are tired, and have been quite familiar with each other through the evening. Resistance seems to be lower at night, so make it a habit to be in early from your dates.


15. Each Partner Should Be Responsible for Their Own Actions.
Dating is a two-way arrangement. Do not allow another person to control your actions, in any way. You are responsible for what happens!! Do not go on dates without a plan. Not to have one may sound harmless, but that situation often leads to trouble.


16. Discuss Dating Rules with Partners.
As you date, especially those you really like, discuss these rules and your standards, so that you each understand what you expect from yourself, and your relationship with each other. Set the stops now, while your minds are clear and unhampered by emotion. It is too difficult to set them in the middle of a passion-filled night. If a partner is not willing to follow these rules, or thinks they are too strict, DROP HIM OR HER FLAT!! Never let your standards down -- even for what may seem to be the best young man, or woman, you have ever known. If you want the help of the Lord, and His blessings, follow His counsel.


17. Do Not Think You Are The Exception to These Rules.

Do not think that they apply to others, and that "It will never happen to me." This is the biggest error of all. IT CAN HAPPEN TO YOU!! You are not so in control, that you can afford to say to yourself, "OH, I would never do that." That is an open invitation to Satan, to prove you WRONG!!!
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But behold, I say unto you, the Kingdom of God is not filthy, and there
cannot any unclean thing enter into the Kingdom of God; 1 Nephi 15:34